When He Comes Too Soon
You meet a cute guy or girl at a party or at Bird library. Somehow you lure him or her back to your room that you didn’t clean beforehand. Things start to get hot and heavy, shirts are coming off, pants are unzipped, long underwear exposed… things are going well. But then, it all goes amiss when, despite all the sexy Italian he whispered into your ear, within the first two minutes of actually having sex, he comes. He’s finished, done for, and there you are left, naked and unsatisfied.
Women are, by nature, more difficult to please. Maybe this is because of crappy sex-ed classes that don’t teach much about female sexual anatomy. Maybe it’s because of the obstacles women face in owning their sexuality. Whatever the case, if the guy can’t last more than five minutes, chances are that doesn’t give a girl sufficient time to O. Orgasms (especially female orgasms) are like a beautiful flower that needs time and care to blossom. Sure, he’s a nice guy with a great tush, but sex is an important part of many relationships. So it is important to sit your guy down and have a long talk about why one thrust is not reason enough for staining the sheets.
Maybe, he’s new to this. A lot of the times, when guys are less sexually experienced, they are just excited to have something to finally stick their dicks into. Give him a little break, because he might not know that it’s important to make sure both partners reach the finish line. Use this as an opportunity to tap into the potential to be an educator that you always knew you had. If you think the guy is worth it, teach him what you like and the importance of foreplay. Show him all the potential that sex could have if he could push through for a couple more positions. With practice, anyone can get better and build more of a tolerance. And practice can be fun for both parties.
Maybe, you have a conversation about it. Communication is always key, and you have to let your partner know that 3 minutes and thirty seconds is not enough time for you. If nothing’s ever said, then no one will ever know that there is a problem!
Maybe it’s time to scrap him and find someone better. Honestly, some guys are just selfish. They don’t always care about you. It’s all about their pleasure. So if you find yourself in the sheets with a guy like that, you can do better. And you should. Date an acrobat or a more mature man instead. There are more exciting fish in the sea.