Pick Up On Unfavorable Body Language

People often know when a person is into them, but what if a person isn’t having dirty, sexual thoughts about you? Even though we like thinking they are, here are some signs that they aren’t.

Pulling In

An interested guy spreads his arms to look “huge” (wink), while an interested girl puts her arms behind her to “open herself up” and to push her assets forward. Anyone not interested keeps to themselves: arms against the sides means they aren't feeling it, leaning back slightly means the two of you just aren't clicking. If a person puts a physical “barrier” between the two of you, then he or she really wants you to back off. Some barrier examples include arms, a drink, or the classic “L” hand symbol on the forehead.

Look At Me, Damn It!

Anyone interested looks right in your eyes all the time, sometimes with the subconscious hope of seeing the rest of you. If his or her eyes are not undressing you, then back off. Other types of eye contact can send different messages: occasional eye contact is a greeting to the friends zone, rare eye contact shows you that he or she thinks of you as a stranger, staring at an attractive guy or girl behind you is, well, self-explanatory.

Crossing

If you see anything crossed, it’s a red flag. Crossing arms, legs, or any pair of body parts is a nonverbal “fuck off." The worst move your significant other can make is crossing their wrists or arms over their lap. They’re physically protecting their “home base” from you. Doesn’t get more clear than that.

Not Really Looking at You

If someone looks directly at you when speaking, be wary. They may be putting up a front. What you need to check is the waist, toes, or chest for the true message. If her or she is talking and facing you, but the rest of his or her body faces towards your wingman/woman, then unfortunately, your crush is interested in your friend. Give up and let the two of them flirt, or risk walking in on them after they "accidentally" jumped into your bed. Then nobody wins, least of all your sheets.